Asian Dating Standards: How to Pursue a Filipina?
Have you been afraid to confess your love to a Filipino woman?
Perhaps you want to enter a romantic relationship with a Filipina, but you just don’t know how and when to pursue her.
That’s fine.
You may think that you are not brave enough to tell her that you love her and that she means the world to you. But, no, being scared about confessing your love means that you are sincere and your feelings are genuine.
Let me talk more about it.
Anywhere you are in the world, love is a serious matter, you can’t take it lightly. To a Filipina, if you find it easy to confess your love then perhaps you are not completely serious about it.
No matter how confident you are as a man, if you are serious about her, your knees would still turn to jelly as you try to tell her your feelings.
A man that can easily express his feelings to any type of woman can be easily branded as a ladies’ man or a womanizer. A woman can spot this type of man right away. If she is not into the flirting game, then this is a red flag.
If you are overly confident about confessing your love, she might assume right away that you are just toying with her feelings.
Being afraid and anxious about revealing your feelings might give you an advantage in wooing a Filipina.
What could that advantage be? They will see your sincerity. You may think that this is a bit far-fetched, but they are keen on whether you are nervous or not when you tell them how you feel.
Most people say that you must be confident when approaching a woman, but confidence does not always work, especially for Filipino women. If you are confident at flirting or giving pick-up lines, you’ll just come across as a “bolero” or a flatterer in English. This may make them giggle and like you, but not enough to make them decide to date you.
Confidence may make you more appealing, but sincerity makes you trustworthy, and trust is what counts in winning a woman’s heart.
Now that we’ve got that straight, let’s talk about how to properly let a Filipina know that you love her.
Take it slow
Pursuing a Filipina takes time, as they want to take their time before deciding if they will date you or not.
Traditionally, dating a Filipina would take months, and there are a lot of factors that may affect the length of the courting stage. It may be a long time, but it is rather an interesting phase of a Filipina’s life.
Today, Filipinas still want the thrill of courtship. Even if they like you and you showed your intentions to date her, they still won’t give you an answer right away.
They want to play hard to get. They don’t want to rush things, and they want to know you more. This is why you should take it slow. If you don’t, it may backfire on you. If you tell her that you love her right off the bat, it might make her raise her boundaries, and you’ll be rejected.
Take it up a notch, and be well-prepared.
You can’t confess your love to someone just by winging it. You need to prepare for it and level up your efforts on making her feel special. You’ll be surprised by how much attention women would receive from their suitors back in the day.
They would receive handwritten letters and suitors would serenade them any time of the day. Men would bring their friends with them and confess their love through a song.
As far as preparation and effort are concerned, these men have taken courtship to another level just to win a Filipino girl’s heart.
Pursue her, and add her family to the mix.
It’s customary in the Philippines that when you court a woman, you must woo her family as well. This is because a young Filipina’s romantic relationship is considered a crucial family matter.
Traditionally, a man must take his parents to visit the woman’s house and meet her family face to face. This is to show that the man is devoted and willing to take good care of the woman for the rest of her life. They will then receive the blessings of their families.
Many Filipino families still do this. It may not be as prevalent as before, but it’s still practiced by many Filipinos. If you like a Filipina, then you should keep her family in mind as you pursue her.
You better be on the good side of the family and relatives of the woman you are pursuing. If her family does not like you, you will never go on a date.
Get to know her deeper, and don’t be afraid to ask questions.
This won’t be a problem for you because Filipina girls love to talk. You can spend one evening with her just listening to her life. Typical conservative Filipino women rarely go out on a date. They are often reserved, but when they go on a date with you, expect her to share important details of her life.
However, this doesn’t mean that you already know her enough. They don’t spill all the beans about themselves, and they are good at keeping things hanging so you would ask them. They want you to know them deeper, but they want to keep you curious at the same time.
Maintain your distance and don’t get overly touchy.
Filipinas are conservative. They want their dates to be romantic, but at the same time, they want to protect their pure and delicate image. They don’t want their first dates to involve too much physicality, if at all. Don’t expect that you’ll be able to hold her hand on your first date.
But there are Filipinas who are more liberal-minded and do not mind being too forward. This means that they are confident in you, and they know that you don’t have ulterior motives. If they allow it, then that’s a great sign for you.
Always make the first move.
A Filipino woman will never make the first move, even if she already knows that you love her. Don’t expect her to tell you that she loves you like, and they’d rather not talk to you than try doing this. So, be the first to show interest even if you are too nervous to say the words.
Even if you confess your love to her, don’t expect her to open up immediately. Even when you just dated her, she still expects you to text or chat with her first. If you don’t communicate first, she’ll assume right away that you are not that interested in her.
While this may be the case, she’ll still give you hints. They are aware that it’s difficult to make the first move, so they will give you a hint and an opportunity to approach them.
You just have to keep an eye out for those hints.
